Monthly Archives: July 2014

Finding Your Path

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finding-your-path-in-life[1]These words are so true.  “Finding your path in life may not always be the easiest thing, but never stop looking.”

The problem is that we tend to want a step-by-step guide to take us through this journey.  Unfortunately there is no guide.  The reason being is that every one of us is an individual and unique.

You may have tried several times to do what others have done, only to give up and not achieve anything.

What one person does to become successful and achieve their goals and dreams just doesn’t work for you.

So you throw away that technique or method saying that it was a con and doesn’t work.  When really it wasn’t the technique or method that didn’t work, it was that you missed one vital element – YOU.

I started riding horses at the age of five, and over the past forty five years I have learnt how to train them.

I have learnt techniques and methods on how to train a horse from a year old up to competition, and I have done so successfully.

There is also something else that I learnt, and that is not every horse is the same.  I use the same basic methods/techniques to train each horse.  But I also have to adjust these methods/techniques with each horse I train.  I cannot use a cookie cutter training method, one size doesn’t fit all.

If I have to adjust my training methods for each individual horse, then wouldn’t it be logical that we would have to adjust techniques/methods of finding our path to fit ourselves.

It is a known fact that there are as many ways to write a novel as there are authors.  Though there may only be several methods to write a novel.  The authors have adjusted the methods to fit the way they write.

This leads to “… never stop looking.”

Keep trying different techniques/methods and adjust them to fit YOU, and make them personal.  DON’T COPY ANYONE.

And follow YOUR path.

Your Life is What You Focus On

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Your life is what you focus on.

You can spend years trying not to end up where you don’t want too.  Unfortunately, because you are focusing on what you don’t want you will probably end up exactly where you don’t want to be, and it can take years before you realize it.

I’ve learnt this lesson the hard way.

I was in my twenties and was at a checkout watching the cashier ring up the items that sat on the counter, and we started to talk.

We found that we had something in common.

Both of us had a passion for horses.

She had owned Arabian horses, and it had been her passion to breed and work with them.

But now in her forties she found herself working as a cashier having lost her horses in a divorce.

I remember feeling like I was looking into my future, and I decided right there and then that this wouldn’t happen to me.

Over the years I made decisions based on what I didn’t want to happen.  I didn’t want to lose my horses.

Guess what?

After twenty one year’s my marriage came to end, and I was faced with losing everything I had worked for and the three horses that I have.

I have never been a believer of the action you take to try and stop what you don’t want will actually bring what you don’t want into your life.

But here I was right where I didn’t want to be.

Right where that cashier had been all those years ago when I had spoken to her.

However, I wasn’t going to let circumstances determine how my life was going to be.

I started to focus on what I wanted.  What the heck it couldn’t hurt.

I casually made a goal and set a deadline for three months.  I really didn’t think it would work, and went about surviving the crisis at hand.

To my surprise three months later as if on cue the goal that I had set happened.  I still didn’t believe it and thought that it must have just been a coincidence.

Now I had to prove that it was just a coincidence, and I set another goal with a deadline three months away. Still not really believing that what had just happened really happened.

I can’t tell you how baffled I was when that goal happened, coming completely out of nowhere.

Now I couldn’t deny that focusing on what you want really works.

I’m also happy to say that nineteen months after the crisis I still have my horses and I’m not working as a cashier.

Don’t focus on what you don’t want.

Focus on what you do want in your life.

Set a GOAL with a DEADLINE.

Take ACTION toward that goal and keep moving forward.

You’ll be surprised what turns up to change all the tomorrows of your life.

Don’t Pee on the Electric Fence

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Note to selfWe have all heard the expression, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.”

You may have noticed friends or family members doing this time after time, and think they are insane for doing so.  They keep on Peeing on the Electric Fence and getting zapped at the end with the same unwanted results.

Why repeat something that doesn’t lead to the results that you want?

It’s easier to see the patterns in others, and you may not realize that you also repeat patterns that lead to getting zapped with the same unwanted results time after time.

But how do you stop peeing on the electric fence?

The first step is to recognize your patterns and get off the merry-go-round.

What do you keep on repeating that doesn’t work?

The second step is to TAKE ACTION.  Learn what you need to learn, and find opportunities that will change the outcome to what you want.

The difference between those that achieve their goals and dreams and those that don’t is ACTION.  Those people who do achieve what they want are those who take ACTION, and it’s usually MASSIVE ACTION.

They don’t Pee on the Electric Fence!

But how?

You get out there and search.  You invest in yourself and find what works for YOU.

And if you do get zapped, you take that experience and learn from it.  You learn from the experience and adjust what you were doing.

You learn how not to Pee on the Electric Fence.

Carry On Blogging

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Carry On BloggingBlogging can feel like the most difficult thing to do. We feel that there is nothing for us to blog about, and nothing inspires us to write.

That’s how I used to feel about blogging. I had never kept a dairy or a journal as I never felt that I had anything interesting to say, that my life was just plain boring.

The problem isn’t about us having nothing to write about, or having an uninteresting life. The problem is actually that we haven’t found our own process of blogging.

I figured out my process of blogging by accident.

I was taking my third writing class with the same Professor; a professor who strongly believed in journaling every day of the semester and had made it a requirement of the class.

I was dreading the journaling part of the class, and was already trying to think of ways to get around the task. I am sure that the professor was also wondering what I would come up with this semester.

At half-term I scrapped by with a grade C, with a note “be careful of the gaps” from the professor. Having left writing in the journal to the last minute, I only had time to write my notes from the reading assignments.

The second half of the semester went faster than the first, and I found myself with one week left before having to turn in my journal.

I hadn’t touched that damn notebook since having got it back after half term, and now I also had a portfolio to do.

What was I going to do?

I decided not to bother with it, and worked on the portfolio. I resigned to the fact that I had left it too late and no ideas on what to write.

Then a strange thing happened.

I finished the portfolio quicker than expected. I picked up the journal and wrote the remaining reading assignment notes. The notes didn’t fill enough days and there were too many spaces.

What could I do to fill in the blanks?

Then an idea appeared.

I get inspired from images. Images I see on Facebook, Google, or just about anywhere. I would use these images and write an idea next to it. That’s how I would fill in those blanks. I had to do an all-nighter to fill in over forty missing days, but I did it, and received an A.

How does this help me blog?

Look at the top of this blog. What do you see? An image. An image that inspired me to write this blog and reminded me of the story I’ve just told you.

If you’re having trouble blogging find your process and inspiration, the words will follow. We all have stories to tell.

Keep Calm and Carry on Blogging.

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